Here are some answers to questions that have been asked.
Have another question? Advice on answers? A comment? Tell us through the contact form — or at retreat — or anywhere! — and we’ll try to add it here.
About the next retreat
- When is the next retreat?
- Due to the Coronavirus pandemic, there will be no retreats at Khao Tham for some time. Notice will be posted on the home page and in the newsletter when conditions change.
- Is there any special program for this or future retreats?
- Sometimes there is an extra retreat, or a longer retreat, or a specific subject for retreat. They will be announced along with the announcement of the retreat.
- You can sign up for our newsletter to get latest information on upcoming retreats and programs mailed to you. You can also contact Tookata for status of retreat and any questions you may have.
- How to register for the next retreat?
- There is no advance registration — you register in person at Khao Tham on the first day of the retreat. You can check the Registration page for everything you want to know about signing up for retreat.
About doing retreat
Other meditation centers don't ask for 5,000 baht, but more around 2,000 - 3,000. Why is it more at Khao Tham?
- It’s hard to speak to the costs and needs of different retreat centers. Also, some places have a lot more funding than we do! Khao Tham has no other funding. All costs of running the Center are from donations by members of each retreat. This is part of our practice
- Bt 5,000 is the suggested amount of donation, based on the costs of maintaining one retreatant for ten days. Money can never be a condition of dhamma, and nobody is ever turned away for lack of funds; you can talk to Tookata about your needs. (We hope that those who have less can be helped by those who have more!)
- Read more about donating.
- Our hard-working cook just doesn’t have the resources to make special meals. But the food at Khao Tham is simple and healthy, and quite a lot of it doesn’t contain those things. Many different dishes are served at one meal. So you can pick from the things that are right for you.
- Also, the tradition we are following emphasizes acceptance of everything that occurs around us. Part of that is accepting whatever we are given — this is why Thai monks and other practitioners even eat meat when it is given to them.
- If your dietary needs are seriously health- or life-threatening, you may want to think if Khao Tham is the right place for you.
- Read more about food at retreat.
- Yes they do. The core of Buddhism, the thing we are trying to learn, is acceptance of everything that occurs around us. Part of that is accepting whatever we are given — this is why Thai monks even eat meat when it is given to them, so they don’t cause extra work for others in making special food for them.
- If we find in ourselves, the need to emphasize our “Self” with special requests (whether to ourselves or others) — especially when it involves disrupting another’s flow — it could be time to look again at the purpose of our practice.
- Read more about Buddhism precepts and practices.
- There are two points of view about studying, reading, and writing during a retreat. Which one we will follow, will depend on the view of the teacher. If it is not made clear during Orientation, please ask.
- Read more about this on the Practices page.
- It is excellent that you have regular practices of your own.
- But it is not beneficial to do them during a retreat that does not use those practices. it would be like practicing your basketball moves at a football camp. They are all part of the same thing, but the purpose of being here is to concentrate on the specific practices here.
- Especially if you are new to retreat, our teacher says, “Try to tough it out for the first three days. If you can make it through the first three days, you will be able to finish the retreat!” Other teachers say this as well, and many of us have found this to be true. So, try that.
- But maybe you are just finding the retreat unsuitable for you, for whatever reason. This can happen. Life goes on inside retreat just like it does outside 🙂
- Meditating Buddhists, retreatants, retreat staff and even teachers, have bad days, bad months, and even bad years, just like regular people. Or you may be having a bad phase yourself, and not able to settle in to retreat. Or the style of the retreat may just not be suitable for you.
- One option is just to leave. It is much appreciated if you share your concerns with staff or manager before you go. Also by talking with somebody, you may find clarity and be able to go on with the retreat.
- You can take the difficulties in retreat, as part of the practice. Take the discomfort with teaching style, retreat conditions, your own mood, etc., as an object of meditation, just like leg cramps, mosquitoes, or anything else. We can do the same practice of noticing our responses, feelings, and thoughts about the difficulties. We can note how much of our discomfort is in our own resistance to the circumstances. It can even end up being a very good retreat!
Other retreat questions
I would like to come late | leave early | attend retreat for only 3 days | etc.
- The retreat program is developed especially for the 10 days. The energy and rhythm of the group and of each person changes through the retreat. You are cheating your own self if you do not attend the full retreat time.
- Also, it is disruptive to the retreat flow and to the other retreatants to have an energy appear or disappear during the retreat.
- If you really feel you must have a special retreat length for your special self, contact Tookata for permission.
- Nearby places for shorter retreat are our sister center Dipabhavan on Koh Samui with two 7-day retreats each month, and Samai Kongka south of Srithanu with weekly 4-day walking retreats. Check our Retreat Centers page, and search the Web, for more possibilities.
- This is a totally understandable concern!
- As far as getting a place — it is very unlikely that we will go over limit. Only one time in the last few years we ran out of dorm room and had to put a couple of people in the yoga hall. Just come early for registration, and you should be fine.
- As far as retreat being canceled — unlikely, but things do happen, and we know that impermanence is one of the aspects of life! If the worst scenario should happen, some options are: 😊 Look for other people who have come, and get something going together! 😊 If you have done retreat before, see if it is possible to stay at Khao Tham and do meditation, possibly with other people here. 😊 There are retreats somewhat nearby, before 10th and after 20th at our sister centers Suan Mokkh and Dipabhavan, and at Anthony Markwell’s new Indriya Retreat Center near Srithanu. You can read about them on our resources page.
About Khao Tham
Can i visit Khao Tham?
- Normally you are encouraged to visit — However, there is a Coronavirus pandemic going on and visiting anywhere is not a nice thing to do these days! Notice will be posted on the home page and in the newsletter when conditions change.
- Normally you are encouraged to come and meditate here — however, there is a Coronavirus pandemic going on and visiting anywhere is not a nice thing to do these days! Notice will be posted on the home page and in the newsletter when conditions change.
- Normally (after pandemic is over!), this is possible; will depend on the individual circumstances. More information on staying at Khao Tham is on this page.
What is meditation anyway?
- “Meditation is sitting quietly
while paying attention to your experience,
allowing everything to be just as it is.”
— Cassandra Vieten
- More on our Meditation page.
- The Thai Forest tradition, under which we are studying and practicing here,
is the branch of Theravada (or “Pali tradition”) Buddhism in Thailand that most strongly emphasizes meditative practice and the realization of enlightenment.
Forest monasteries are primarily oriented around practising the Buddha’s path of contemplative insight.
The Forest tradition in one sense even predates the Buddha, as it was a common practice of spiritual seekers in ancient India to leave the life of town and village and wander in the wilderness and mountains.[ref]
- A brief description is here on this website.
- Learn more about the community and the practices at ForestSangha.org.
- There is a comprehensive overview at Wikipedia
- “This is good! You need enthusiasm to stay motivated in your practice. You also have a sense of urgency which will help you progress.”
- It will take as long as needed for you — and not any longer.
- Strictly speaking under the Thai Forest Tradition, it would be expected. However, there are schools of thought which consider the teachings of the Buddha, and its goals, as meant for all people, not just Vinaya holders.
No it’s not the Only way. You can realise Nibbanna as a lay person. Monastics do have the advantage of living full-time in an environment that is conducive to their practice.— Orion.
- Yes, mindfulness and meditation practiced only in a secular way (without the religious bits) are absolutely effective and life-changing. You can practice them effectively in your life.
- As we learn and grow through our practice, we become more aware of the immense interdependence of all things. We may feel the desire to recognise it, to give back to it by honoring it.
It is part of our human nature to express awe when we feel it. Think of the exultation you feel hearing the music of an amazing band or watching an amazing performance or landscape.
- Bowing and chanting in veneration, is not done in the worldly sense, which is to show deference to power, but as a sign of respect for something greater than our self, and as part of our Buddhist practice of emptying the self.
- The terms which are used in the Buddha’s teachings just have no equivalent in other languages. If we try to use Christian terms (ordination, confession, salvation, etc.) or Sanskrit terms (karma, nirvâna, etc.) we will be missing the real idea — they are not only different, but sometimes even in opposition to the true meaning of the Pali term. (So don’t try to study the Pali terms — because they have no real translation! Just chant them, read them, use them, and gradually their meaning will become clear.)
- More about Pali on this website, including how to pronounce Pali words.
- The difference is in focus:
In general, Western mindfulness is practiced for the goals of health, mental stability, success, and so on → for worldly life.
Vipassana meditation is done as part of the practice of Buddhism, and has moral and philosophical aspects → with an eye to samadhi.
- More at Buddhism.Stackexchange.com here and here.
- It does seem complicated. This is because our monkey mind likes to play with everything it finds, turn things over and over, examine every side … and talk talk talk about it. And it is fun and educational, and even inspiring, to do all that! But basically it is pretty simple
- Notice we don’t say “Buddhism religion” or “believing in Buddhism”. Buddhism is not a religion or a belief. It is called “practicing Buddhism” because that’s exactly what it is: Practicing for real life. In the practicing you will find the application.
- At one retreat our teacher Phra Marut summed up Buddhist practice like this …
- And then do it again. And again … and again … that’s all!
- Because of that monkey mind.